f.u.b.u.: self-care 101
"...There was self-care in the routine.
In the kneading of the dumpling for chicken foot soup.
In the blasting of Beres Hammond on a Saturday morning.
Mummy took care of herself when face masks and massages at the spa were things that she did not know..."
--(An excerpt from a piece that I'll probably never publish.)
How do you take care of yourself?
“Self-care” has become a term blazoned across Instagram and Twitter as more people are realizing the importance of integrating it into their individual routines. It is “for you, by you.” There’s something beautiful about consciously taking steps to address your own needs. There’s healing in nurturing yourself as tenderly as you would nurture others. And I know that you know that we know that you can’t go taking care of other people when you aren’t taking care of yourself.
I think that sometimes self-care routines are portrayed as glamorous activities, but it doesn’t necessarily require such grandeur. Self-care is food for the mind, body, and soul. Whatever you do should feed one of those three things because when one tank runs on “E,” there is a domino effect that takes place.
Below are a few easy steps that you can take to integrate self-care into your own routine.
1. Make chores fun!
On Sundays, I love to pour a glass of wine and turn on some reggae classics as I cook brunch, dinner, and/or meal prep for the week. Dance around while you’re in the kitchen, and have some fun! This is definitely a form of self-care for me.
ALSO: Whether it’s dusting or folding clothes, try to clear your mind and only think about the task at hand. It’s satisfying to give your mind a break while your body isn’t partaking in any strenuous activity.
2. Don’t have time to draw up a fancy bath? I got you covered!
During one of those special occasions when I was in Ulta while I shouldn’t have been, I stumbled upon a product called “Luxe Aromatherapy Shower Tablets.” Ulta's Luxe Aromatherapy Shower Tablets are an in-shower aromatherapy treatment. (You can find them here.)
When I use this, I like to sit candles on top of my bathroom counter and toilet to dimly light the room. It only takes two minutes to treat yourself, and I promise you’ll immediately feel the calm! Find a relaxation playlist on Spotify, Tidal, or Apple Music, and you’re set. If you don’t have any of those services then use YouTube! There’s no excuse.
If you are REALLY pressed for time, then just throw one of the darn tablets in when you're getting rushed for work, and it'll have you much more relaxed.
3. Buy a book of poems, and read a poem each night before bed.
Find a poem online if you must. Just find something that will better lead you into a state of relaxation before you drift off to bed. Your cellphone should not be the last thing that you look at.
And also, you'll look freaking amazing if you can sound off about a few poets or poems the next time you're out with friends, family, or a date.
(BTDubz: Right now, I’m working through a book of Langston Hughes' poems.)
4. Download a meditation app such as “Calm” or tune into a YouTube video.
One of my best friends suggested that I try using sleep meditation videos if I was having trouble sleeping. I immediately searched for one on YouTube, and it helped tremendously when I listened to it as I laid down for bed. I no longer had issues going to bed and sleeping peacefully throughout the night.
5. Understand the importance of your skincare routine, and actually enjoy the process.
Don’t rush. Take your time as you wash your wash and rub your creams in. Listen to music while you do these things. You deserve to pamper yourself, and you deserve to feel guilt-free as you do so.
(DON'T WORRY! I will be sharing all of my CHEAP ((as all hell)) skincare products on the blog very soon.)
Ya'll, there are SO many ways to bring relaxation (and the spa) to you! They don't have to cost a lot of money, and they don't necessarily require a lot of time-- but they are important. You need to invest in yourself, honey, because if you don't, who will? We all know that self-care is great for your mental health and that great mental health supports a healthy physical body! Take care of yourselves.
Thanks for reading and sharing! Sound off, and let me know some of the ways you all like to indulge in self-care!